Will the doula take over my role? Will I be replaced?
I hear these questions frequently from partners who are concerned that hiring a doula will diminish their role during the birthing process. Let me help calm those fears and eliminate those concerns! You are THE most important asset your partner has! With a doula by your side, you are freed to participate at YOUR comfort level. I once had a dad tell me that he wouldn’t be in the birth room if his partner wasn’t making him. He sat at the head of the bed and held his wife’s hand as he stared at the wall. That was the only way for him to participate, but still be comfortable (and it worked for that couple). On the other hand, there are partners who want to participate in “everything”. I’ve even seen several dads “catch” their babies! There is no “one size fits all” when it comes to supporting your partner. I find that, most of the time, partners want to be involved but are unsure of how to help or what to do. That’s why you hire a doula!